The subtle art of not giving a #@%!

Hello all,



You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of.  You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

Today on a trip to target I picked up a new book, The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A #@%! by Mark Manson 

The title itself drew me in and although I am only through the first two chapters I am finding it to be such an easy read.   The message differs from many self-help books I have read.  If you’re looking for a guide to happiness, this isn’t it.  If you enjoy chanting in the mirror “I deserve happiness” on repeat 30 times, this book isn’t for you.  This is a honest book that allows you to focus on the #@%! you should give and not give a #@%! where it isn’t needed.

Again, I am early on in my reading but I LOVE that this book is realistic.  Life has challenges, life is unexpected and unfortunately/ fortunately life sucks sometimes.  I love that this book encourages you to think past what your idea of happiness is and focus on the challenges you will face to get there, that is where you find out if you want something bad enough.

So excited to keep reading…

Have you read this book or another by Mark Manson?

A good life is not a life without problems.  A good life is a life with good problems.

For those wondering, I know I have not been posting as actively as originally planned.  The reason is simple: I am living the best life possible!  Although I want to take moments out to share my new finds, some great products, and just about me — my intention is to live in the moment and not allow the freedom of sharing to become the burden of creating content.

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Sweet Steps

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Instead of wasting hours and days and years trying to figure out you perfect next move, just DO something already.  Oh the time we waste rolling ideas around in our heads, imagining what-ifs, coming up with perfect reasons why and then perfect reasons why not, tearing at our cuticles, making our friends and family carefully screen their calls in case it’s us again, wanting to go over some ideas.  Get out of your head and take action.

Yesterday while continuing to read You are a Badass by Jen Sincero the quote above stuck out.  The other day I was discussing with my friend some of my current feelings about life and work.  I was discussing my next steps, her first response was “the next steps are so scary for me.”  I chose to keep this friend anonymous because her opinions on things are similar to mine and she is too valuable to put “on blast” via a blog others will read.

I agree with her 100% though, the first step is the hardest, but the next step is just as hard.  Although this book makes me feel badass, I am far from fearless.  I also am hopeful that everyday from now on will look brighter, be better, and most importantly bring happiness.

I am so appreciative for those of you who chose to read these posts and come back as I share my journey to my best life! Thank you!

I am also open to advice, opinions, questions, and open dialog… like, comment, and follow!

Some random Ashley facts… recently I developed an allergy to Red 40 (Red food coloring).

Have you ever watched the show botched?  That’s my face if I eat anything with Red 40 in it.  Two words: Bad Botox.

I was so excited to find an organic company that made dye free gummy bears, gummy worms, red fish, peach rings, and watermelon rings.

I came across the brand Wholesome at a HomeGoods and haven’t been able to find them since.  The other day I had such a craving for the red fish I placed an order online here.

Another fun fact, on the website listed above they have a store locator that actually narrows it down to stores near you that sell the product!  So far out of the new items I purchased I tried the watermelon rings… OMG SO FRUITY AND SO FRESH!  Even if you don’t have allergies give them a try!

Anyone have any organic must haves that they recommend? Let me know I would love to try them!



As I shared in my prior post I have recently started the book You are a Badass by Jen Sincero.  This was recommended to me by one of my oldest and dearest friends Kayte.

I am not going to spoil the book for anyone because in my opinion this is a 2018 MUST READ!


I would like to share some things that resinated with me…

Chapters 1-5:

Most people are living in an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs.

Such a true and unrecognized reality. Don’t get me wrong we need the people in our lives to guide us, but their beliefs become ours as do their fears.

The universe will match whatever vibration you put out. And you can’t fool the universe.

Basically, we can’t just appreciate life when it’s all sunshine and rainbows. You must focus on what your dream life is even when you just walked up to your car and found parking ticket. (I use this example because it happened to me Thursday.) Instead of remaining focused on my use of the day I let that one thing take over and I became instantly angry.  The universe wasn’t going to throw a bouquet of roses at my feet for being a pissy b*tch the rest of the day, just incase you had hope, I didn’t get the bouquet.

If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. – Lao Tzu

This quote. That is all. As someone with anxiety I can relate to this. I’d like to defend myself but I can’t, this quote is the truth. I am committing to spending more time in the present because there is really no better place to be.

Having others smear their fear and worry all over you is the last thing you need when you’re strengthening your superhero muscles to step out and take some risks.

Think about this with me, the last time you had a really killer idea and you shared it with someone (new business, ways to revamp a business, movie idea, book idea) what was their first reaction?

For many of us the answer is one of the following:

  • Do you really think people are going to pay for that?
  • How are you going to get the money to start that?
  • That doesn’t seem realistic…
  • How many people will pay to read it?

I will put myself in the guilty category. But why do we do this? Why when someone is attempting to grab life by the horns and make it their best version do we attempt to crush all of their dreams?


If you are currently reading the book, let me know what is resinating with you in the comments below.

If you have yet to pick it up… What are you waiting for? Join the journey to stop doubting your greatness!