You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
Today on a trip to target I picked up a new book, The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A #@%! by Mark Manson
The title itself drew me in and although I am only through the first two chapters I am finding it to be such an easy read. The message differs from many self-help books I have read. If you’re looking for a guide to happiness, this isn’t it. If you enjoy chanting in the mirror “I deserve happiness” on repeat 30 times, this book isn’t for you. This is a honest book that allows you to focus on the #@%! you should give and not give a #@%! where it isn’t needed.
Again, I am early on in my reading but I LOVE that this book is realistic. Life has challenges, life is unexpected and unfortunately/ fortunately life sucks sometimes. I love that this book encourages you to think past what your idea of happiness is and focus on the challenges you will face to get there, that is where you find out if you want something bad enough.
So excited to keep reading…
Have you read this book or another by Mark Manson?
A good life is not a life without problems. A good life is a life with good problems.
For those wondering, I know I have not been posting as actively as originally planned. The reason is simple: I am living the best life possible! Although I want to take moments out to share my new finds, some great products, and just about me — my intention is to live in the moment and not allow the freedom of sharing to become the burden of creating content.
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This past weekend was so relaxing. My friends and I joke about it but I literally had to quit my job to go on a girls trip with some great friends!
I am so lucky Stephanie and her family invited us up to Minnesota. The beauty of everything around us just brought such peace over me. In between refreshing cocktails, soaking up the sun, tubing, and eating the most delicious food I had this sense of family. Now this could be a Midwest thing, or it could just be Steph’s family is that bad ass, but I totally felt at home from the first moment I met everyone.
From telling jokes as if we’ve known each other for years to sharing how we met the woman who brings us all together we laughed so much I nearly burned off the calories I’d taken in… nearly. 🤭
There were so many moments on the lake I literally got lost in the sounds of the water while gazing at its beauty. It was like the stress relief sounds they have to put people to bed, BUT BETTER!!! It was real life and I still can’t get over it.
I also discovered my new food obsession: top the tater (I’ve known Steph for nearly 3 years and not once did she mention this; royal sinning).
So this is a chive and onion dip that changes the dip game for me. So much so I am researching ways to bring it to Chicago. What an activist, I know. You will thank me later tho.
The worst part of this trip was saying goodbye to such great people. When you meet someones family you can see exactly what made them the person they are. Stephanie’s family is so full of love and laughter with literally the biggest hearts to open up their home to me.
I’m still sad we had to go. 😪
Along our travels I added to my bucket list:
- Go snowboarding
- Ride a horse
- Run through a corn field
This was such a blast! Thank you Gayle and Mark for opening up your house to me! 😊
I have a habit of becoming a tourist when I am up North, no matter how many times I go.
Three times in a week was nice and provided some beautiful pictures.
I have been busy as you can tell from the lack of posts…
Both work and summer concerts have been consuming the last few weeks. On the July 24th, Brian and I went to see 3 Doors Down. It was my first concert at Northerly Island Park and I must say it’s a very underestimated venue. I actually am eager to attend more shows there next year.
To follow that up we went to see Foo Fighters on July 29th and 30th. This was my second and third time seeing them. Such a great show, despite the drunk 40-50 year olds who we sat by each night. Last time we saw them in 2015, Dave had a broken leg and although he put on a great show from his throne, it was nice to see him commanding every inch of the stage this time around.
If you have never been to a concert at Wrigley Field you’re missing out, GO NOW!
If you have been to Wrigley concert name your favorite one? Who did you see?
My favorites in this order:
- Tom Petty (his last concert in Chicago)
- Foo Fighters 2018
- Green Day
- Foo Fighters 2015
Side note: Just realized my first time seeing all of those artists was at Wrigley. Crazy!
Thank you to my amazing boyfriend for such a week of great memories! There is nothing better than live music with the one you love (rocking out on my arm guitar).
Until next time you can catch me watching videos on my phone reliving these concerts and screaming lyrics at the top of my lungs…. buy ear plugs now.
This past weekend was filled with some gamming fun.
Niantic definitely made up for last year. ALL cell service worked and I was able to play the game!!!
Although Brian and I were unable to catch Celebi, which still is super upsetting. I think Niantic stepped up the creativity with this event and definitely made it an experience throughout the park.
Although I am no event planner, I have a few suggestions for future events:
- Have multiple entries – this was an issue last year and by adding another entrance that helped however, no addresses were given for the entrances on our map. Having 21,000 people entering only two places is a bit chaotic.
- The event should be in a more enclosed area. The length of the park and the lack of detail in where the entrances were made it difficult to activate our QR codes in order to start our Go Fest 2018 research tasks. This made catching Celebi difficult since you had to visit each habitat which were pretty far in distance.
- Train the help… The people who were helping keep people on track and walking in the right direction literally kept saying “I think it’s this way…” I do not need them to be experts but at least know which direction the South/North Gates are.
- Since the park was so large – more food trucks would have been lovely. The South Gate had three food trucks… We waited in an hour and a half line for what was advertised as the best beef in Chicago and was indeed NOT. When we made our way to the North Gate there were four food trucks… with once again 15-20 minute lines for water.
Also spent some time being a creep on some of our favorite Pokemon Go Youtubers.
Between all the media they had to shoot they spent some time catching Pokemon near us! Brian and I were super excited, more so Brian, he interrupted me catching a Snorunt in order to stalk them. :).
I had so much fun and can’t wait to walk another 20,000 steps with you again next year babe!
Did you go? Tell us about your experience in the comments! Are you from Chicago? Where do you find the most luck when playing Pokemon Go?
As you may or may not have noticed it’s been a few days…
Last weekend Brian and I attended our first concert of the summer, Weezer! As always it was such a great show!
My absence on the blog has not been a result of an unbalanced life by any means, I am currently taking the time to learn and understand my role. I have entered one of the most upbeat, empowering, and positive environments. Day 1 all of my “what if” questions disappeared.
Tomorrow Brian and I embark on Pokémon Go Fest 2018! The excitement is real!
Thank you for stopping back to check in.
More to come on my transition into my new job and some fun summer activities we have planned.
See you soon!
I have some great news: I start my new job Monday!
Emotions I am currently feeling: excited, nervous, anxious, and motivated.
This move is a huge step for me to live out my blogs intention: Work Life Balance.
As I look forward to this new chapter in my life and get ready to embrace the most change I’ve had in 8 years, I also am reflecting on the wonderful network of friends I have made along the way.
For those friends reading… your friendship has made saying goodbye hard. I know many of us will chat via Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn but never forget I am a phone call away.
Today I was surprised by two friends with this wonderful addition to my Alex and Ani collection. The bracelet colors matched the shirt I wore today perfectly! (Background pattern is the shirt.) I’M OBSESSED!
Randal and Nicole you will be greatly missed on my new journey. Keep holding it down for the ladies and doing the excellent work you have always done!
My biggest trophy of all that I was given while I launched my career was Brian. He came into my life when I least expected it and it was perfect. Through this entire process my family and Brian have offered so much support and encouragement while I was making my decision to pursue a career with a different company. I can never thank you all enough for listening to the hours on end of contemplating, crying, and complaining.
I wouldn’t change a thing about this experience because it has given me the best friends.
I do not have photos with everyone or they are just super hard to find….
I love you all. Thank you for making this the most memorable 7 years!
Many of you already know my dog obsession from reading my past posts. If you aren’t aware, prepare yourself.
I started to use my camera to take some good photos of my dogs. Believe it or not they have learned to stay still and I secretly think they enjoy modeling.
Buttercup and Bella trying to squeeze on a seat for their photo op.
I can’t help it but they are the cutest! So obsessed with how these came out.
I can’t forget the boys who haven’t learned to sit long enough to get model like photos.
Maddox (top photo)
Hope you enjoyed the photos. Thought I would share the cuteness.